Help your child connect his misbehavior to a negative outcome. These results not shown revealed no association between spanking at age 1 and externalizing behavior problems at either age 3 or age 5. Spanking is the easy way but it is not the right way for me. And I am just waiting for you guys to finish. The publisher's final edited version of this article is available at Child Dev.
First, if you feel angry and out of control and you want to spank or slap your child, leave the situation if you can.
The Great Spanking Debate
But I really want you to read this piece by Positive Parenting about alternatives to spanking, it has 9 techniques to help you out and they are all very practical instead of giving you bookish crap. They were both receptive and seemed to be ok. Model D standardized coefficients for the full cross-lagged path analysis of spanking at ages 1, 3, and 5 and internalizing behavior problems at ages 3 and 5. We are all grown, confident, well mannered, highly functioning adults and none of us are struggling in life. Maybe not in those words though.